Adult Sex Ed.The Basics
FellatioI regard fellatio as the highest form of expression of love that can be exchanged between two people. There is nothing that you can do which more clearly shows your love for him than the worship you can provide to his penis!
The first thing you will notice is if he is circumcised or not. Next take a close look at the shaft of the penis itself. There is a bulbous part of the organ near the outer end, slightly larger in diameter than the shaft, usually called the head. This is the glans penis. The outside perimeter of the glans penis is the corona, which joins the head to the shaft. This is the most sensitive spot on the penis. It is toward this ridge that you will direct most of your attention when you are giving head. Follow this ridge around to the underside of the penis. I like to call it the underbelly and I am very fond of the underbelly!
You will notice where the two ends of this irregular circle come together. If your partner is not circumcised, this will also be the point where the foreskin is attached. This tiny area is easily the most sensitive spot on his entire body, and it is possible to bring your partner to climax simply by gently tapping the tip of your tongue directly on it. Spend time caressing the glans and those areas immediately surrounding it.
Beneath the glans is the shaft of the penis. The shaft does not have many nerve endings and does not provide a man with any high degree of stimulation when caressed either manually or with your tongue to the exclusion of the glans penis itself.
Now lets go back to the shaft of the matter. The opening in the tip of the glans penis is the meatus. Here is where the ejaculate spurts. I could have said semen is ejaculated but I did not want to sound too professional.
Beneath the shaft are the testicles (testicles, jewels, call them what you like, but let's not ignore their significance). The testicles are extremely sensitive to pain and are not usually considered subject to erotic stimulation to any particular degree. Not true! You can add a high degree of pleasure for him by paying the right kind of attention to the testicles! Such as sucking them in your mouth - one or two at a time.
So look at his penis. Study it. Learn his areas of special sensitivity completely and be ready to apply your knowledge to his body with your tongue and with your lips when you bend your loving head over his penis.
For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where the ring (or corona) of the head and the foreskin are attached. Or were attached prior to his circumcision. By continued licking and tapping along this area with your tongue you are going to bring forth a geyser. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax.
When he climaxes he may want to push your head further down the shaft of his penis. He wants to envelop you with his penis. As you are learning his climax you will miss the fine points if you deep throat at this time. Instead gently suck around the corona as he climaxes so that you can intensify his pleasure and increase the force of his orgasm. As you gain more experience you will be able to tell exactly when his climax is approaching and you will be ready for that initial spurt.
Refine this basic technique and heighten his orgasm by placing your thumb at the very base of the penis in such a way as to block the tube through which the ejaculate spurts. The semen cannot escape even though he is spasming and going through the reflex action of ejaculating semen. If at the same time you suck vigorously on the head of his penis you can delay his ejaculate for several long moments. When you finally allow the ejaculate to spurt it will last much longer and be just as intense as a result. Even though you delay the ejaculate for only a few short moments you will be surprised by the intensity of his ejaculate.
In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of his penis can be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against your lips.
The natural tendency of the body is to gag when a deeply thrusting penis is being forced down your throat. You can overcome this tendency by completely relaxing your throat at moment the insertion is made. It is equally important that you maintain this relaxation during the entire deep throating. Let him put his penis down your throat and hold it still while you find the most comfortable way to proceed. Because of your position you will not be able to move or to offer him any greater stimulation than simply keeping your mouth tightly closed around his throbbing penis. If you are able try to stimulate his underbelly with your tongue, do it!
You will only be able to relax and take his penis in this way if you completely trust him. Your partner is in full control. He must initiate and maintain all the motion. Now he begins an in and out movement that is just like intercourse. He should start slowly, especially if this is a completely new experience for the two of you. His only other requirement during this exercise is to keep the motion in the same direction throughout this oral exercise as there is simply no leeway for him to vary the motion from side to side.
Because of your position in bed you will not be faced with the problem of swallowing his ejaculate. And this is not just because he has a condom on his penis. The reason is because he has gotten his penis BEYOND your gag reflex! Without the rubber his ejaculate would shoot directly into your stomach! If both you and your partner understand what it is that you are trying to do as well as the possible problems that may "ejaculate" up along the way no harm or discomfort will happen to either of you.
It is possible that not everyone will learn the "deep throat" technique but this inability does not make you any less a woman. You must allow your throat to relax completely while your partner is thrusting his penis this deeply down your throat. To do this long enough for your partner to completely get it off is very difficult and may require practice beyond this day. It may be that you will be able to take your partner completely down your throat, but you will not be able to maintain proper relaxation of your throat until he shoots his load.
Hopefully your partner will understand that this is not a rejection of him or of what he is offering you, and it is my sincere desire that you not stop here and think that you will never master the "deep throat" technique. Continue to practice this lesson. Your practice will allow you to take his penis deeper into your throat each time and for longer periods of time.
Go down on the penis shaft as far as you are comfortable. All the while your lips should be firmly wrapped around the shaft. Open your mouth as wide as you can and suck in as much air as your lungs will hold. While sucking in air let your open mouth travel up to the penis head. Your up stroke motion should end at the head of his penis just as your lungs fill with air. Now with your mouth still open let the air in your lungs out slowly through your mouth as your opened mouth travels back down the penis shaft. This technique cools the penis on the up stoke and warms the penis with your hot breath on the down stroke. Do this movement as long as you like then return to the basic vacuum suck method. This is great with edible body oils that heat up with your breath. If you feel he is about to ejaculate stop what you are doing and let him cool off for a few minutes.
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